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The problem with overprotection: How (not) to deal with a youth lost in transition


Wealth is power - said. Mr Hobbs. The value of our commodity is the value of the labour to make that commodity. People cannot buy everything with their own labour that's why rich is the one that can pay to purchase or command a certain quantity of labour. The money we have to buy a good are a product of our own labour. We can exchange with others for the same quantity of labour. 
Basically, like Mr. Smith here, I believe little in God and more in market forces and they will put everything in their place.Mr. Smith here says labour gives a real value of things, but it is difficult to measure hardship and ingenuity to produce one same thing. We have money as things to mediate between two goods - the one we have produced and the one we need to acquire. The nominal value of the money can change but the value of the labour which purchases the good never changes.
If your labour force is sitting unhappy at home, watching TV or on FB the economy loses wealth and power. The most valuable thing an economy can posses it's its labour force or the intellectual capacity rather than natural resources. 
And there is no grater intellectual capacity than the one of the youth population that seems hidden or simply neglected by our country here.
Achieving adult status means making a transition in two domains: from education to labour market and from dependent child to establishing independence. That never happens in Macedonia. Even as adult macedonians can seem to do anything without the blessing either of their party or parents. How many of them are really independent when the house you live in was bought by your father and mother and maybe they had to leave to show the neighbours that their son became independent after he got married.
How many of those really worked to achieve their own independence is essential for my research to prove that macedonians are capable of taking their own initiative and making a difference.
It seems we are only capable to take our own initiative when it comes to leaving the country with our parents money. And what happens there is that from a spoiled brats we suddenly get this supper powers and work any job we can find to survive.
Overprotection is contra-productive and need to do more research on this.
Another problem that many of my university professors back in Macedonia discussed during my studies is the lavish wedding parents do for their yang adults for the sake of the neighbours.
The professors were saying that the parents should have used those moneys to help the youngsters to do something productive, like starting a new business help to become more independent. Families are literally starving to show-off in front of the neighbours. The main thing is to not fall beyond the standards of others.
It has not always been the same. During communist era jobs were guaranteed. People were given even a place to live or loans and other help to become independent as soon they finish school. Parents would spend for a weeding but it was worthed. It made sense. Now it doesn't. Our generation is living a lot worse than our parents. They are lost as well. Thinking that once married they will find job and live the parent house. But as that didn't happened many of them had to live the house they built instead.
Always thinking that the "third world" country refieres to a developing countries and the poorest. But no. First, when coined by Jawaharlal Nehru was used to define those countries that maintained their independence and are not considered to belong neither to West nor with the Soviet Union - the non aligned countries. Yugoslavia was wan of them, and the irony wanted it successor states to maintain that status but with a different meaning now.
When the communist era came to an end the people din't wanted to give up their life style so easily. The youngsters didn't wanted to live worse than their parents. My professors were reproaching us that we still think it's the state that has to call us for a job and drag you out of our parents home.
What it shows is that even our parents are probably sorry for the generation they raised. The over-protection of their own child, especially male that has to take the family name is shown to be very contra-productive. And maybe that is not the only reason for the eternal problem of youth unemployment, but definitely one of the reason to consider.
That's why I consider important my dissertation to give me some answers to that and share the findings. Not just a theoretical this and that, chatting and mumbling about unemployment. I would not be happy with that. We need answers. I need more than that. We deserve an explanation.
We are a generation lost in transition.
Well things change since. It's not a surprise to read that in Macedonia there is unemployment among the very well educated as the article "Macedonian job" by D. Cameron would suggest that even his tour guide in Macedonia had an MBA, there is something inherently wrong with us. And want to now what.
Another article in Macedonian language from an intelectual that I truly appreciate, points out the problem of over-protection as a main cause of creating unemployed youth. Mrs. Sinolichka Trpkova argues that the children (especially the male youngsters between 14-35 years old, and she calls them children for a reason, I guess) in Macedonia are the most privileged category. First they must get a good night sleep, she continues, and then mum has to give them money to buy cloths and to go out, make sure the lunch is ready when they come back, and it's a pitty to work that young and it's not their fault they are jobless. The ones working and studding in Western countries at that age are too stupid and can mange that well as we do, concludes Mrs Trpkova.
Well, this all makes great sense to me. And yes, in Western countries 15 onwards is the age to find a job. And fighting the unemployment in Macedonia is more than just fighting the numbers, but also dealing with stereotypes and popular believes that doesn't match the system we live in now and appeared in the post-communist Macedonia. They are young people that really want to work, and many. The majority.

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